It’s just one of those days. I’m feeling some venting coming, probably a little ranting thrown in.
I mentioned this once before and haven’t really brought it up since, my mom told my dad she wants a divorce the day I came home from vacation. It basically came out of nowhere, not too long ago her and my dad were discussing places to move when he retired, so we were all shocked. There was not like a series of things that led up to it. Ever since then, my mom has been trying to act like nothing happened and told my brother we (my sister, dad and I) would forget about it soon enough. She refused to talk about it to my dad or us, saying she doesn’t have to justify anything to us and that we are old enough, so we shouldn’t care what she does. I’m sorry, last time I checked justifying and talking about what’s going on and where we are going from here are completely different things. Am I right? So basically, you can cut the tension with a knife in my house. Yesterday, after much prodding, my dad finally got her to talk some and she decided she is moving out and looking for apartments and that is all she has to say. It’s absolutely maddening. I think she is being very selfish. You just tore this family apart out of nowhere and refuse to talk about what’s going on? I just don’t understand.
I live at home while I am in school. I probably will until I graduate. I just don’t see working as a part time nanny paying the bills and rent in Chicago. With all this stuff going on at home, this is the last place I want to be. I’m lucky I have a boyfriend who will whisk me away and out when I feel like I just can’t take it anymore. I really just want to be anywhere but here right now, I feel like I need a vacation, even though I just got back. I want to just go somewhere and when I come back, everything will have settled down in it’s new place and I will be able to just merge right back in to life.
On a less serious note –
- my 100 Things page got lost in the Great Blog Fiasco of 08. I only have 10 things about me now and I’ll be damned if I rewrite 90 things again. It took me forever the first time!
- I start school next week. I have to buy books. I HATE BUYING BOOKS. I hate is almost as much as when I sell them back and they give me mere pennies for my $150 book. Robbing me blind!
- The writer’s strike blows. The boyfriend and I have resorted to movies, movies we have seen before, cheesy movies, tv movies, just about anything. I don’t know how much more bad reality television I can take. Trust me, I watch the Hills, I can handle bad “reality” shows.
- Dude. Why does web design cost so much? I just want a cute custom theme for my bloggy here and don’t really have $400 to spare.
Enough of the whining, let’s end this entry with something cute.

31 Responses for "one of THOSE entries"
That puppy is adorable! I want just like it!
Buying books is the worst part about school. Wait, the tuition is. Then comes books. I’ve said it before, but I hate how ridiculously expensive it is to go to school these days. It’s retarded having to pay an arm & a leg for an education to better ourselves.
I’m sorry about your mom and dad. It does seem like she’s being selfish. I find it pretty odd that she doesn’t want to talk about it at all. But maybe she’s dealing with her own issues and when she’s ready, she’ll open up. But still, I understand that you just want some answers. I hope she comes around soon. Some where in the many Chicago blogs that I read, someone mentioned that’d it’d be a good idea for a Chicago meet-up. Maybe someone will throw one together and we can whisk you away for a day
That puppy is adorable!!
Definitely feel you on the LOATHING of text book purchases. Jerks. Why would you charge BROKE PEOPLE up to $300 for a BOOK that’s only going to be used for 3 months. Highway robbery and those mah’fuckas should leap off a cliff.
Re: the ‘rents? Oh, lordie have I been there. My parents’ divorce had been coming for about 14 years and I was sick to death of the topic and hating having to be ANYwhere in their vicinity while the venom was being spewed. I’d get into it further, but then I’d practically be blogging in your comments. Not so cool.
Keep your head up, hon. This’ll clear eventually.
You’re a doll. I’m sorry to hear about everything that is happening with your parents. I kind of know what you’re going through. My parents have been talking about the same thing. I know it can be hard living there right now but you’re going to be okay.
Textbooks are killing me this semester too. Wish I could move back home to save me some money but they just live too far away.
I’ll be thinking of you. You’re going to be fine.
My favorite is when some stuck up prof changes the wording in two paragraphs, and your book is now worthless, as now it’s the 45,000th edition that is required.
I’m so sorry about all of the turmoil you’re going through right now with your mom. I can’t even begin to imagine how tough this if for you. Hopefully she’ll come around soon and open up about it some more. Until then, know that all of your blog friends are here for you
Is that your puppy? Because if it is, holy clean carpets! How do you do it?
I’m sorry about your parents. I really don’t even begin to know what to say about that.
I wish it was my puppy! Puppy is courtesy of Cute Overload.
Try buying your books on Half.com. Actually I don’t know if that still exists, but it was a lifesaver when I was in school. Also I was all anti-establishment, and just made friends with people and borrowed their book or organized ’study time’ when I needed to use it.
Family sitch: Keep your head up. I hate tension filled houses, but know that we’re here for you! And so is your terrific BF!
omg that puppy is so precious!
But the books thing. Yeah, I stopped selling them back after my second term. I know I’m not going to use the books but I’d rather be stubborn and keep them than sell them back for 10% if not less than what I paid for them.
Sorry about your parents. It sucks to have to go through a divorce, especially since this was unexpected. Hopefully your mom will come out of her funk and confide in you (or your dad and sister) so that you can understand why.
Oh and if you need a design for your blog, I’ll be more than happy to help you with what I know. I’m not an expert or anything but I’ve done a website or two for my family’s business.
Im sorry about your parents. For awhile, my parents had a really rough patch, and my mom used to tell my brother and I in secret, “As soon as you guys go to college, I am going to leave your dad.” I was in middle school at the time. Thats a big burden for a 12-year-old and I’m not sure why she confided in us like that. But now they are fine and seem happy again. I hope something works out for your parents. I don’t know them or anything, but I hate it when I hear about people just giving up and walking away. It seems like divorce should be the absolute last resort.
I agree that the strike blows - I’ve started watching The Biggest Loser. Blah.
I am so sorry about your parents divorcing
I went through something similar last month, and it’s hell. I hope things get better for you. It’s always better when you have someone to help you through it.
And that puppy? I had a mini-stroke when I saw it on CO. It reminds me of when Layla was but a puppeh
What a terrible situation at home. I’m so sorry your family is going through this. The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and put in place the best support system you possibly can to help you cope!
Ahh my dear I’m sorry about everything that is happening with your parents. Those are the toughest situations. My parents got divorced when I was 18 and I really had a hard time with it- both of them were being selfish and I really struggled seeing them as people- not as my parents who should just do what I say. I hope things improve.
As for the puppy? Well. You know what I think about puppies. (And seriously, one of the first things I did when I woke up today was go look at the other puppy you posted. It’s absolutely impossible for me to look at it and stay in a bad mood.)
Aw I hope everything with your mom and parents works out. It makes no sense that she wouldn’t want to talk about it to anyone. I’m sorry.
At least you have that cute looking puppy and a boyfriend to whisk you away, that’s always a plus.
I can see why that would be so frustrating - having lived at home through a separation before, I’m sending good thoughts!
Squee at the puppy!
Don’t know if she is your style or not but this girl Nikki (http://madebynikki.blogspot.com/) has been redesigning all of my adoption friend’s blogs. Get this - the girl charges $20 and donates $5 of that to charity (if you do it, give her a little tip - crap I can’t believe how little she charges). I don’t know how custom she gets but most of what I have seen is cute.
Two other people who do it and don’t charge an arm and a leg (but I can’t guess what they do charge): http://www.misszoot.com and http://www.lifeofelle.com.
I don’t think it matters how old her kids are. Even if you were all in your 30’s and had children of your own, she’s your mother, and I feel like that means you all deserve an explanation. Your dad especially deserves one.
Maybe it’s something she can’t explain, but then again, saying that would be sort of an explanation in itself. I hope things get better and your mom comes around.
Sorry…I totally got focused on that one thing that wasn’t really the point of your post.
Sorry about your parents…once they reach 50, there is just no talking to them - they think they know everything. Seriously, probably not much you can do but hope everything turns out in a way that they are both happy.
And the puppy?!? How cute is the puppy!!?!
Hated HATED buying college texts - I don’t know why people write best sellers when they can screw college kids and make them pay $225 for a text book.
Sorry to hear about your family. That’s awful, and NOT helped by the non-communication. I truly hope things get sorted out.
Sorry to hear about your parents as well. I know what it’s like to live in a bad situation like that and just want to get the HELL out of there.
I think we slightly mentioned a Chicago meetup in the comments section of my blog. And I’m all about it…
Also, puppy is cute. But my eyes were really drawn to the chair in the background. Is that weird?
I want that dog. WANT.HIM.
I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. I went through my parents’ divorce when I was nine and I almost think it was better that I was so young because I never had to experience any of the awkwardness and actually knowing what was going on. Good luck! Getting things out on the blog helps!
hey love. you’re totally allowed those days. shoot me a quick e-mail and i’ll send you back what i want to write here, but can’t for privacy purposes.
Jamie,
Seriously, you’re writing my life right now. My parents are already divorced but Pops is remarrying and it feels like salt in the wound. Plus my house flooded, ruining everything in the basement, while I was on vacation with the boyfriend. And class starts Monday.
So, seriously, when is my next vacation? Because I need another one. Now.
hey jamie -
i know i’m a little late to comment … but i’m so sorry to hear what you’re dealing with re your parents. i hate when parents stop acting like what you expect or want from them. and it sounds like in the case of your mom, it’s even more unexpected. i hope she starts feeling more comfortable talking.
in the meantime, we are all here for you! and i’m so glad you have your awesome boyfriend who is providing nice distractions. seriously girl, if you need a drinking partner …
The writers’ strike DOES blow. I’m basically about to die b/c the office has halted.
Ugh.
I’m sorry about your parents. It’s a horrible thing to go through no matter what the circumstances.
I wish I knew how to design a website. Maybe someday!
I’m sorry about your parents. If you were in NormanTown I’d take you out for a stiff drink and a vent. But as it is, have a virtual belt and vent blog-wise.
Maybe time will loosen you mother a bit, once she doesn’t feel so stressed about everything. In the meantime, at least you get some extra cuddle-time with your cutey!
And, to help a bit and add to the puppy-love, isn’t he cute? : http://news.aol.com/story/_a/chihuahua-born-with-heart-shaped-spot/20070711155609990001
I’m sorry about the situation with your mom/dad/family - that sounds terribly frustrating, especially since she won’t even say what’s going on.
The puppy is adorable, however.
Hope things start looking up soon!
Aw, sweetie, that is rough.
It’s hard when the person who is supposed to be the stable one in your life becomes selfish seemingly out of the blue. It not only throws your current life into disarray… it also throws a lot of your notions on life and love off, too. Spend lots of time with your guy and your friends and let them take care of you!
Oh boy. Parents can be so…superficial and selfish sometimes. My parents have been divorced for 13 years and it still amazes me how pointless their fights are. I disappeared for a bit, but I am back and added you to google reader - why I didn’t do that before, I don’t know. Anyhow, stay strong!
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