jamie ann

the unknown

February 12th, 2008 at 8:57 am . Posted in me me me .

I’ve never been one of those people who know exactly what they want to do when they get to college. I know a lot of people don’t know, but somehow they always find their way. I will be 24 years old next month. I’m completely lost when it comes to school and career. I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to just pick something and stick to it. It’s kind of ridiculous really. I know a lot of people don’t graduate with their degree straight out of high school, but it really bothers me that I am 24 and still no degree. I should have a real job. I shouldn’t be living at home. I say time and time again I am going to get my shit together and figure out what I’m doing with my life but I just end up more confused. Yeah, I’m great with kids, I could be a teacher. I know I’d be good at it, but is it really what I want to do forever? I suppose I can just get a degree in English and something would pop up. Should I do PR? Should I jump in completely with nursing? Should I scrap all that completely and try something in business? I have no idea what I’m doing and it’s making me crazy. I feel like a complete fuck up when people ask me where I am working now and all I can say is I’m still in school and not too sure what I’m doing. If there was a major for changing majors every three seconds, I’d be done and over with school forever ago. I’m chronically indecisive.

My parents and those close to me don’t push to doing anything I don’t want to do. I know they have to wonder, even if they don’t want to admit it, what the hell is this girl doing? Why is she wasting all our money on tuition? I wish I could tell them. I wish I could tell myself. I wish I had the passion for learning something that I just know this is exactly what I should be doing with my life. Is there some moment where everything just clicks together? Where everything makes sense and just comes together? That everything just falls in to place? Where the light bulb flickers on over my head?

Maybe that moment just skipped me by all together.

I just wish I knew.

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survivingmyself
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:06 am

Don’t worry about it! People are constantly changing their minds about what they want to be/who they are. I know I’ve done it at least 40 times. I think that it is extremely rare when someone actually does one thing for their entire life. Life is about changing and evolving, every minute, every month, every year. So, if you ask me, you’re right about where you should be.

Man, that was deeper than I thought it was gonna be.

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Dutchess of Kickball
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:17 am

There is no moment when everything falls into place, but there is a moment when you look back and realize that it has. Don’t stress about things. If you are happy in where you are, then why worry about the future? Hell, I’m 29 and have no idea what I want to do with my life.

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Jess
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:20 am

I’ll be 24 next month too! What day?

Also, what you get your degree in now doesn’t have to be your “forever” job. Things shift, people change careers, jobs lead you in unexpected directions. There’s never a moment when there’s a line you have to cross where all decisions become permanent.

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Kari
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:20 am

I think some people just never fully know what they want to do with their lives. My husband is that way. And while it’s annoying b/c his life plan changes every three minutes and I’m a planner, I know it’s going to be Ok and that’s just the way he is. Most creative people don’t have a set plan for their lives. They just float through doing things that they enjoy and changing jobs every now and then. Don’t try to force it. Keep doing what you’re doing and it will, or it won’t, come to you. And either way you’ll be fine.

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Hope
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:21 am

{{{hugs}}}

It will all come together. And, your major isn’t going to pigeon hole you. Most of my friends aren’t using their college major. I’m not using mine either. Don’t worry, it will all work out.

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julybug
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:21 am

For probably 90% of people that moment doesn’t happen. There is no grand realization. It’s something I’ve been struggling with myself since I graduated college. It’s especially hard when my boyfriend has known since birth what he wants to do and also happens to have an incredible talent for it. Why can’t some grand life plan just reveal itself to me too?

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Trinity2
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:21 am

Sometimes it just finds you. Like, I’m convinced the only reason that I ended up in my profession is bc I couldn’t pass calc and changed majors so I wouldn’t have to take it anymore for my degree

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Sara
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:22 am

Ooh, this is what I do for a job

First and foremost, your major does not have to lead to your dream job. It often does not, actually. I have a degree in Marketing and I work in higher ed and have never done anything even remotely related to Marketing. But it was nice to put that I had that degree on my resume, particularly for jobs that require one.

Secondly, this generation will have so.many.careers in their lifetime. I think the latest estimate is at 8. 8 careers. You don’t necessarily have to find a job that’ll make you happy forever and keep you going until you retire. Most leave jobs after 5 years now. The world is completely open to you.

Hang in there, though. It’s a rollercoaster, but it’s a great rollercoaster.

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Jamie
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:24 am

At 24 I was graduated, with a job & getting married. That said, now I’m about to turn 28 getting divorced & thinking that I don’t want to do interior design anymore. So even if you knew what you were doing right now, doesn’t mean that’s it, that you’ll never wonder again.

It wasn’t till after I graduated that I questioned what I was doing. I feels pretty strange to be almost 30 & not know what the hell I’m doing.

Sooooo, I think you are very normal in your thinking:)
Just don’t feel alone, you’ll figure it out, we all will.

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Nilsa S.
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:43 am

My parents (who are academics) told me to major in whatever I want. The way the world works today, I would be able to market myself afterwards for a job. Companies look for people with lots of different backgrounds. And if you want the job, you’ll figure out a way to convince the hiring manager why you’re a good fit. Look at me – I was a math major in college and now I do more English and creative work than I ever expected. Also, I had a friend who was in her mid- to late 20′s before she graduated with an actual degree. She worked part time to try to figure out what she wanted to do. No one says you have to take the straight road to get there.

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Stephanie
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:03 am

I don’t think there’s ever a moment when things will click – at least there wasn’t for me. I mildly enjoyed my undergrad classes, but with that degree (it didn’t matter what it was in), I was able to get my first job and my second and my third. And the work experience is when it clicked – when I finally realized what I really want to do. I don’t think undergrad degrees matter as much. Just get that diploma in your hands and then you’ll be able to figure things out.

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verybadcat
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:10 am

WH still doesn’t know what he wants to be when he grows up.

If I had been able to go to college right out of high school, I would have a psych degree right now that I probably wouldn’t be using or wouldn’t like using.

Because I went to work right out of high school, after a few years of trial and error, I discovered accounting and finance. Now I’m doing it backwards- pursuing a degree that fits my career.

Do everything you can; hobbies, odd jobs, part time work, taking different classes, until you find what you love.

Others have said- don’t sweat your major. I would say that if you really aren’t sure, business is almost always safe.

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tiff
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:17 am

It’s all about trial and error. I went to school for computers, worked for awhile in it before realizing I hated it. Quit my job and just started doing ANYTHING to get a job. As long as you have a degree in something, companies will consider you. Then I started feeling out what I liked about different positions, what I hated. And then, I finally found my way, last year in October. And I’m trying to get back to it, so don’t worry. You’ll know when you know and you’ll be happy you didn’t rush it.

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Laurel
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:20 am

Most of the people who knew what they wanted to do right away just randomly picked something and went for it. I did that, and now I’m ready to change careers at age 26! Indecision is not a bad thing, and you have your whole life to try lots of different careers!

Just know that, whatever you major in or pursue first, it’s not a “forever” decision.

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Jenny
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:23 am

I’m 24 and still dont know what I’m doing with my life either. I gradutated from a crappy 2 year college with an associates in business 3 years ago and was planning on going back to another university to finish up. I never went because the thought of picking a major terrifies me. I really do want to go back to school and get my degree, but I really have no idea what I want to do. I know I am for sure going back after I get married this October, so I better figure it out soon. Don’t worry about it tho. You’ll figure it out one of these days and so will I.

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Lacey
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:25 am

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Don’t ever forget that, because it’s true. My parents made me finish on the “4 year plan” but one of my best friends and tons of other friends took time finishing, and are happier with the result. You don’t need to know what you want to do. AND, your major doesn’t have to apply to what you do after college! Do something you enjoy, the job you get will reflect that. I majored in print journalism, and now I work in event management, and I love it! And I started out working in a hotel

Hang in there, and smile.

And, toss me a line on the Facebook if you need.

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Lisa H.
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:29 am

Sweetie, I feel your pain! I’m also chronically indecisive. I’ve been out of college for 5 years and I still don’t know what I want to do. Unfortunately, it gets harder when you are in the workforce because you become reliant on that particular salary and it is hard to start over doing something new. Plus, in the business world it apparently isn’t cool to have a job you enjoy, that’s looked at as “coasting”, you should be worried about “advancement.”

Being good with kids is really a rare talent, more rare than you probably think. It might be worth thinking about something in that path.

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Ashley
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:35 am

I’m not really sure if it ever all falls into place. I think you just have to pick something a go for it. To help me decide, I thought of my dream job and chose the major that would lead me down that road. Since then I’ve decided it isn’t my dream job anymore, but I’m in grad school for something similar and I love it. Just go with what feels right!

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Emily
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:41 am

I have been lucky enough to at least have an idea of the field that I want to work in for a while, but it all evolves. I started out in science and now I am going for the policy and management side of that science. And I went to get my master’s straight out of school and I am petrified of June when I graduate and may or may not have a job.

My point is that even if you have some idea of what you want to do, no matter what your path, there is never any real certainty and there is always worry.

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Jenn
Feb 12, 2008 @ 11:00 am

I can defintiely empathize with you. I’ll be 24 in a few months and I’m lacking a degree. Sure I graduated from massage therapy school..but that doesn’t count. It’s not like I have a degree to show for it. Just some crappy certificate I had to pay $13,000 for.

I have an idea of what I’d like to do, but there are so many things that discourage me from pursuing it (i.e., money, time, confidence, etc.)

But I’m back at home after having been out on my own for a couple of years and it’s utterly frustrating. I want my career to begin now so I can get out. Like Ashley said, I’m not sure if everything does fall into place or if you just have to jump in and go for it…wing it! But at least you have a lot of options and time to pursue this. I’d rather be extremely picky than be miserable because I picked a major or job that I loath.

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Karmen
Feb 12, 2008 @ 11:13 am

nobody knows what the hell they’re doing in life half the time… trust me, you’re not alone. Im in the same boat. And every college student i know that is about to graduate has no idea what they’re going to do with their life either once June rolls around. All of them are just hoping to God that they chose the right major.

we’re all confused and unsure — you can be sure of that.

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Renee
Feb 12, 2008 @ 11:16 am

The only reason I’m graduating in four years is because it’s practically unheard-of at my school to take more time. But, I didn’t settle on a major until halfway through my junior year and ended up designing my own because I didn’t like anything traditional. As for what I’ll do next year? Hell if I know… I’ve changed my potential career path about 30 times in the past week. You’re not the only one.

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erin
Feb 12, 2008 @ 11:20 am

i have to believe that you will figure it out, if not today then maybe tomorrow.

sure, i have an mba and a job i like, but it doesn’t mean that i don’t question it all the time….

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Hope
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:10 pm

My dear, I’m turning 27 soon-ish and am still waiting for that light bulb moment. Can’t help but I so relate to this post. I feel exactly the same way. But, I am getting tired of own indecisiveness. I just want to pick something I enjoy doing and go with it. You know? Instead of doing something just because it is there. Gah!

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Queen Bitch
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:33 pm

Dear Jamie Lovely:

Have you considered starting your own business? The local cupcake truck here in Bitchville is a hit (Bitchville is an alias for the place where I actually live, there really are cupcake trucks out there)! Maybe you can start a cupcake-selling business.

Sincerely,
Queen Bitch

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Lippy
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:33 pm

Hey there, finally something I can say that might make some sense. I started out in College as a pre-med student and that just didn’t work for me. I went on to Accounting, went to work part-time for an Accountant when I was in school, and was bored sick with that. I then went on to be an English major for pre-law. In my Senior year, I was working as a summer intern at a Brokerage house, and wound up making a career of that. So I guess that would answer the question “Is there a point where it just clicks in?” You never know what’s waiting out there, and keeping your options open is ok, and it’s better when you’re going to school. A passion can come along out of nowhere, and suddenly you’ll be in love with something.
Don’t rush things, or measure your life by what you see others doing. It’s your life, and you’re going to have to live it for a long time. If it takes you some time to figure out what you’re going to be happy doing, so be it. I always refer to the commercial for Lipitor, with that doctor who invented the artificial heart. He started out with the intentions of being an architect, and I’d say his life worked out well anyway. Hang in there, and please forgive the 10-page comment!

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Michelle
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:39 pm

Speaking as one of those people who ALWAYS knew what I wanted to be when I grew up – sometimes life doesn’t work out that way. I knew I was going to be a lawyer from the time I was in grade school. I was always so sure of it that when I run into people from high school now, they ask me how I like being a lawyer – they remember that was what I was going to do. Guess what? I’m not a lawyer. I’m a former social worker. Sometimes you just fall into what you are meant to do and it suddenly clicks. I took a year off before law school to save some $$. I had majored in psychology in undergrad (mostly because I had to major in something and I thought that sounded fun). So I took a job in a domestic violence shelter making minimum wage (my parents loved that they spent all that tuition for me to work for minimum wage). I fell in love with the work and I never looked back. I ended up in grad school for a masters in counseling and I eventually got a raise.

The moral of that long ramble is this: give yourself a break. You will find your bliss – or at least the paycheck that you don’t hate getting out of bed for in the morning. It is much better to be searching now than when you are in your 30′s because you made a fast choice in your 20′s that didn’t work out.

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Angela
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:41 pm

You know, I graduated almost four years ago, and I’m still trying to figure out what to do with my life Just keep searching for your answers, and eventually you’ll find them. You’re very lucky to have such supportive friends and family, and I know they just want you to be happy.

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1218Blog
Feb 12, 2008 @ 12:42 pm

Trust me you’ll know when you know. I started out doing something totally different than I am doing now. I loved both! I had no idea what I wanted to do when I left school. It will find you. Don’t worry!

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Deutlich
Feb 12, 2008 @ 1:04 pm

You shouldn’t feel bad AT ALL about the indecision. Friends of mine are 28 and STILL in school because they have yet to fully make up their mind, or it took them so long TO figure it out that they’re on the extended program.

There’s nothing wrong with that. NOTHING. At least you’re going to school, you know?

And my advisor once asked me, “what is it that you like? what do you thrive on?” and once that question has been answered, that’s when you make the decision on what you’ll do education wise.

Even if you made a decision now, worked in that field for a decade and then STILL changed your mind, then that’s okay too. No where does it say that things we decide on are written in stone.

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magda
Feb 12, 2008 @ 1:17 pm

Take comfort in knowing that you’re definitely not alone in these feelings. I had a near crisis when I turned 25, I think because I had, as a child, somehow designated that as “my” age: in my head, I’d have it all sorted out by then. I’d be married, and successful, and have a fabulous job. I wasn’t any of those things. But what I realized? THAT WAS OKAY. It sounds like the cheesiest advice ever to say that life works itself out, but more often than not, it does. It’s important to have some direction, but knowing the precise route isn’t always required. Good luck!! And happy early birthday!!

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Carrie
Feb 12, 2008 @ 1:48 pm

Oh, sweetie. Hang in there. I know exactly how you feel, except I am THIRTY ONE and I don’t know what I want to do with my life. I think the main thing to think of is to not set yourself or your life by anyone’s standards but your own. Who is anyone to judge what your life should be like, but you? And taking your time is OK. You have your entire life to have a career, and there’s nothing wrong with not knowing how you want to spend the next 40 years of your life! That’s a big decision.

Good luck, and don’t be too hard on yourself! Life is a journey. It’s OK not to know exactly what your destination is yet.

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katelin
Feb 12, 2008 @ 3:30 pm

It’s okay if you don’t know what you want to do yet. My boyfriend switched his major three times and graduated still not completely sure what he wanted to do. Now he’s on a completely different path and is finally happy, I have faith you’ll get there too.

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Lindsay
Feb 12, 2008 @ 3:30 pm

Hey there, I know a lot of people have commented already (saying some of the same things I’m about to…) but I just had to comment and say that I have been feeling the EXACT same way.

I graduated in May of last year, and I haven’t found a job. My parents are saying they don’t want to financially support me anymore and that I either have to take anything or I have to go back to school. Last night I had a little bit of a breakdown about it, and then I made a list of all the things I really love – like shoes! and lingerie! etc, etc – and then tried to imagine some sort of business I could turn these interests into. Then I listed the steps I would need to complete to get there one day. It really helped me just to get everything that I’ve ever thought of doing down on paper along with a plan to get there.

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Dan Mega
Feb 12, 2008 @ 6:35 pm

Take your time. Don’t think you have to have this figured out by now.

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Claire
Feb 12, 2008 @ 6:46 pm

Joining in the chorus to say: You’ll make it. You will. Even those of us have supposedly have it figured out are doing our share of flailing. Or at least, I am. I know that I am majoring in something that I love (medieval studies) but also that I don’t want to make a career out of it. So I added a minor and I’m applying for internships and wondering whether I can improve my “hire-ability” with grad school, and every day I am plagued by doubts. And I know that a lot of my friends are in the same boat. But we’ll make it, and you will too.

And, for what it’s worth, almost no one I know in my family is making a career out of what they got their college degree in, which is why I felt able to jump feet first into a useless major. Everything will work out.

Best of luck!

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Princess Pointful
Feb 12, 2008 @ 7:00 pm

People act as though there is some magical lightbulb that comes on when you are 18… but that’s not the reality. Even if you are not 100% sure where you are going, at least you are on your way there!

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Andrea
Feb 12, 2008 @ 7:10 pm

People who want to do long term careers, like law or medicine, honestly fascinate me. How anyone knows at a young age that they know what they want to do for the rest of their lives blows my mind. I don’t even know what I’ll be eating for lunch tomorrow, much less where I’ll be in a year or two or five or ten.

I think everything eventually falls into place in their own time. Until then, its all self-discovery.

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Virginia
Feb 12, 2008 @ 8:55 pm

I am the same way…I think I have this idea that there will be a moment when I’ll just KNOW that THIS is what I want to do for the rest of my life. But I know in my inner heart that that isn’t going to happen, that I’m going to have to try a bunch of different things before I (hopefully) find the one that I love. And you know what? That’s totally okay. Because whenever we try something new, we learn more about ourselves and the pieces slowly start to fit together.

I know I’m just echoing what everyone else has said, but don’t stress about it. (And when I write a post in a few weeks/months about this same topic, please tell me the same thing!)

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AP
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:00 pm

you’re not the only one. yeah i have my degree- but i’m still as confused as ever as to what i want to do. i haven’t applied anywhere because i dont know what i want to do (and I’m a bit afraid of rejection but thats beside the point). idk. i changed majors in college and ended in psychology. i like it, but idk if it’s my “passion”. right now i’m just trying to find a job pertaining to my degree so i dont think i wasted the money.

no worries. you’ll find your way. everyone’s lost. some people just fake it better

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bunny
Feb 12, 2008 @ 9:09 pm

Like everyone else said, you’re definitely NOT alone being in that place. Consider it good that you have so many interests: you’re well-rounded and can fall into a number of fields successfully and happily. And as someone who moved out and did college in four years, i.e. the “standard way,” I can tell you it’s DEFINITLEY not all it’s cracked up to be. The grass always seems greener on the other side, hun.

And in your own words from my blog: “Pink polish can make anything better. Seriously, itâ€™s like the law.” Go get a lovely pink manicure (hahaha no pun intended for your blog name) and cheer up – you’re normal! (P.S. Thank you for the visit to my blog, I will be visiting you again for sure!)

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Clueless Cat
Feb 12, 2008 @ 10:39 pm

…and welcome to the quarterlife crisis! It’s totally normal for you to be feeling like that!

My suggestion is to think about what it is you really like to do, and apply it to a job. I realize it sounds a lot simpler than it is, but give it a shot! Another great book to help you out is The Quarterlifer’s Companion (Amazon link: http://tinyurl.com/2egram)

And while you’re studying, either study something you love or do something way practical. I went the practical route – got a law degree, even tho I wanted to study publishing/journalism/English, but now I’m a writer anyway.

Ugh, I wish I could help! Anyway, good luck…!!

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Lara
Feb 12, 2008 @ 11:28 pm

i’m 25 and i have two college degrees already, but i don’t know that i’ve ever had that lightbulb moment. and most of the time i still don’t feel like i have any sort of career or valid long-term job plan. i make enough for now, but i wonder a lot if it’s sustainable forever. where am i really going? what am i doing?

trust me – degrees don’t change the doubting.

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Rachelskirts
Feb 13, 2008 @ 12:51 am

Oy. I wish I knew, too. I’ve switched my majors five times, gone to two different schools in three years, taken this year off to work at my church full time (what? dumbest idea ever), and I’m still absolutely clueless as to what I want to major in or what I want to do after I graduate. Hurray!

I vote all the confused people start a school with that “major for changing majors every three seconds.” We’ll hire Cuppycake Designs to design our school logo, and our mascot can be either cupcakes or oompa loompas. Both? Let me know what you think of these ideas.

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Miriam
Feb 13, 2008 @ 5:28 am

Do what you love doing now. If that changes years from now you can always change it Just do what makes you happy.

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Heather
Feb 13, 2008 @ 6:02 am

oh, hon.
you have no idea how much i relate to this entry.
i’ll be 24 in may. i still have 18 months left of school.
i’m ready to start a LIFE. get my SHIT together.
GAH.
we can do it together

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Maxie
Feb 13, 2008 @ 8:41 am

If I didn’t know better, I’d think I wrote this post. Except I’m a little bit younger- but it’s exactly the same deal. I just can’t decide! There are some things that make sense, but I just can’t pick one. ugh

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Um... Yum!
Feb 13, 2008 @ 10:20 am

I’ll be 25 this month. I have a degree…but I don’t use it. I was sooooo worried about time (in high school they drill it into you: you HAVE to go to college right away, you HAVE to graduate on time, you HAVE to do this and that), so I finished that sucker as soon as I could (I also wanted to get the hell out of college. I didn’t want to go in the first place). I wish I had taken a year off after hs to decide what I really wanted to do. Or I wish I hadn’t been so worried about graduating college on time that I had taken the time to really reflect on what I was doing, and I probably would have switched majors, had to stay an extra couple years, but I would have had a degree I’d more likely use.

But it’s ok really. I’m working on an Associate’s Degree right now (because I have to do things backward lol) that I actually want and can use. I was still living at home until I was 24, and I probably still would if I hadn’t lucked out on a cheap apartment. I mean, I’m almost 25 and working at Starbucks. I would say, how pathetic am I, but I’ve learned everyone goes at their own pace, no one thing is right for everyone, and no matter where you are don’t compare yourself to others because success and happiness depends on the person. I think it’s great that you know what you want to do at the moment and are going for it. Don’t second guess yourself because you think you should be at a certain place at a certain time in your life. If you want to change your mind again, go for it. I had 8 different jobs last year. Talk about being indecisive! But you know what, better now to keep changing your mind rather than later when you are living on your own and can’t change your career because you have too many bills to pay.

You never know, those people who moved out at 22, got their 9-5 jobs and six figure incomes by 30 may pause at 40 and have a major midlife crisis wondering what they’ve been doing the last 20 years. I only say this because like I said, there’s no point in comparing your life to other people’s. You’ll find your way, too, don’t worry. ) I for one have accepted the fact that I will forever keep changing my mind, so I live my life knowing I’ll always be a flight risk and nothing is permanent.

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lizziebelle
Feb 15, 2008 @ 10:38 am

word. its hard because you push your whole life; to do your homework when you are young, to get into the smart classes in high school so you can be accepted a great college, and then you get in, and do whatever it takes to have fun and graduate….but then you graduate. its like you push push push and end up off the cliff grasping for something to hold onto, so you grab onto the first thing that you can, only to find out you hate what you are holding.

i have no idea what i want to do.

good luck in your search!

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Traci
Feb 15, 2008 @ 9:44 pm

Punkin, I have NO idea what I want to do, and I’ve been out of school for almost three years. I think I want to go back to nursing school, but I also want to write, and I’m pretty sure my PR degree was a total waste. Also, PR? If you want to cry every day during your 12-hour work day, go for it – it may be different outside of NYC, but here? Total. Hell.

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Sandy
Feb 20, 2008 @ 12:02 am

Hey there- I consider it luck that I came across your blog today. I know your post was written a few days back, but I had one kinda similar to this written out today. Let’s just say, I’m 100% with you that changing your major should be a major in itself. I’ve done it more times than I can count, taken every class offered at my school from management to social work. And still, I have no idea what I want to do. I asked people for advice for me, but after I wrote it all out I sat down and thought about what I wanted, what I knew for sure. And what did I realize? That I have no fucking clue- but that’s okay. I know I’ll be repeating some of the commenters when I say that 1. many people fall into what they want to do, and it usually isn’t even a part of their major. And 2. that people now have more careers than ever, so if you do decide to go with something, that doesn’t mean it’s what you need to stick with forever. Getting a degree- any degree- is key, because it shows that your college educated. You’ve taken your courses, paid your ridiculously pricey dues. Most training you’re gonna get is gonna be on the job anyway. I don’t know, basically.. just don’t worry so much. I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it’s annoying to hear (mainly because everyone says it to me) but you’ll be fine. Pick something you enjoy doing and go with it, if it works out then perfect! And if it doesn’t, have faith you’ll find something else. Hope I haven’t rambled for too long

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Pink Sun Drops
Feb 21, 2008 @ 10:26 pm

Ugh. I think we are ALL going through that – or have gone through it at some point or another. I still don’t know the answer.

Hey what if you just picked something that would be a good backup and then by the time you’re done you could get a Master’s in what you REALLY want to do if you figured it out? *giving myself advice here because I so haven’t picked a major and am in the same quandry over teaching, do I really want to do that for the rest of myself even if I was good at it?*

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