Comments on: D-Day came and went

By: poodlegoose

poodlegoose — Mon, 26 May 2008 17:53:46 +0000

I am so sorry to hear about everything that is going on. I know it is a sucky feeling when you know you can’t do something to help the people you love the most. . . I really hope things work out soon for you and your family.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Fri, 23 May 2008 14:45:05 +0000

Ah, yes, dealing with the feuding parents is likely one of the most frustrating things a kid can do. I’ve been there, and been dealing with their issues for the last 15 years. The one thing you can look forward to, however, are those patches where they are nice, and they are cordial. They might not come very often, but when they do, it’s like heaven. Good luck, and as another kid from divorced parents, I’m sorry.

By: Holly

Holly — Thu, 22 May 2008 07:02:12 +0000

I’m sorry your family is going through this, I imagine it must be very difficult. :(

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Thu, 22 May 2008 06:02:55 +0000

Feeling powerless is awful. Perhaps focus on the ways you *do* have power over the situation? Like how you can make reasonable decisions, you can recognize the problems with your mother’s behavior and try to be present for those you love even if you can’t provide answers. Just the presence of someone we love is meaningful in times like these. Good luck.

By: Jordyn

Jordyn — Thu, 22 May 2008 02:32:02 +0000

I’m so sorry for what’s going on in your family. I wish I had some wonderful words of wisdom but I don’t exactly have any. Still, I’m thinking of you.

By: Rebekah

Rebekah — Wed, 21 May 2008 23:08:43 +0000

I cannot even conceive what you must be feeling right now. I’d be curled up in a ball under my covers half the time and screaming at my mother half the time if I were you - none of this “not speaking” bidness. Keep your chin up though, and muddle through even if you can’t bound and leap gracefully :o)

By: Monica

Monica — Wed, 21 May 2008 21:57:01 +0000

Oh, Jamie. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Parents can be, well, disappointing and heartbreaking people. You’re amazing and don’t deserve to have to put up with this.

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 21 May 2008 19:13:02 +0000

Ugh, what a pain. She should just let HERSELF be done with the divorce and sign the papers already. I’m sorry you have to deal with your parents’ drama, and that you don’t have the answers your little brother wants. It must be tough.

By: girlinterrupted1218

girlinterrupted1218 — Wed, 21 May 2008 19:09:46 +0000

Wow! That sucks that she backed out of the agreement at the last minute. Not on the signing day. Have some mercy. Show some compassion to your family, why don’t she! Sorry dear.

By: CurlySue

CurlySue — Wed, 21 May 2008 17:34:07 +0000

Jamie:
I swear I could have wrote this 9 years ago when I was only 17 years old and my parents divorced. We had no idea there were issues with the two of them and the next thing I know my dad is moving out and they are separated. Uh, yeah. Shock? My mom and dad didn’t go through what is going on between your parents and the money and stuff, but it was hard for me too since I’m the oldest and felt like I needed to help my siblings and fix things. Trust me, it doesn’t work. Sadly, they are the adults and they are going to have to work it out–even if it kills you to have to stand by and watch. It’s just sad and makes you feel sick.